Relax

• If you and your partner relax, sex will be more enjoyable for you both.
• Try to find out how you can relax. This is different for everyone.
• When you notice the pressure piling on, stop and think what sex is like when it goes well.
• Don’t get upset about your sexual failures. It happens to most people at some time.
• There are many ways you can have sex which don’t involve penetration, such as kissing, stroking and touching.

Talk

• Talking about your problems can help you find some answers.
• Talk to your partner or someone you can trust. You may feel embarrassed to begin with, but if it helps your sexual relationships, it will be worth a try.
• If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone face to face, you could call a helpline that deals with sexual matters. The service is confidential and you don’t need to give them your name.

Take care

• You can avoid many sexual health problems if you cut down on the risks you take by having safer sex.